For me, I think he "probably" did it. It's an inexcusable act. If he did it, it is something he should have been jailed for.
However, 16 years passed since then. He became a father. He became a mentor to people. He clearly changed his attitude to the world.
Does he deserve to continue to be condemned in death for something that was never proven, and something that he likely had an identity-level change from?
I mean, there was not a single claim of infidelity since that incident. And if there is a victim in all this, then of course I am sure she feels very differently. But to me, I believe our system is meant to be predicated on the concept that someone can redeem themselves from a wrongdoing - if not to the victim, to a higher power and to society.
There is every chance that Kobe did it, and also every chance this was a money-hungry groupie. Either way, neither of those outcomes negate Kobe's effect on the world and on basketball. And the fact of the matter is we will never know what happened.