"Can a referee report you if they are not working"
That might be your first indication.
Refereeing isn't a “job”, so referees could never be described as “working”.
Unless it’s semi-pro level or above (state league, NBL, SEABL) the refs are there because they love the game, want to give back etc, and maybe earn a bit of pocket money to help pay their canteen and fuel bills at the end of the night.
If you’re playing social ball, remember that’s what it is. Social. Fun. Have a laugh after the game, with opponents and refs.
Everyone involved in social ball should finish the night feeling better after the game than before it (bruises and aches aside if you’re no longer young).
This post seems to be describing people (player and ref) taking things too seriously and not leaving it behind after the game.