They are ten year old kids playing div 2. I expect the ref to tell the coach to stop complaining and remember that it is KIDS' SPORT.

Abuse the ref would be first option.
Don't worry about the kids or parents in your team.
Refuse to leave stadium after 3rd Tech as requested by ref.
Get reported and suspended for 3 weeks-- not allowed to coach, so problem solved.
Sorry- should be more serious. Why not tell us what ref said?
Get your revenge in State Champs

There is no game without the ref. I understand your frustration, but as a coach concentrate on what you can control.

A wasted time out in my eyes, ask the ref after the game.

Coach: WTF were you thinking you dumb green shirt?????
Green Shirt: I was thinking you had one too many cattle stations and the other coach didn't have one.

I would expect the ref to say something along the lines of -

'You handle the coaching, I'll handle the officiating'

That is exactly the reason advantage/disadvantage was started (that exact call actually), as there is no advantage gained and the player was able to correct the mistake without disadvantaging the opposition no call should be made, If a player steps onto court and makes the pass... Violation!

If the ref makes that call, he/she doesn't understand the spirit of the game

If the coach argues the call should be made, he/she is a dick.

I'm not being flippant.

Whatever actions you take as a coach is setting your team culture (especially as a junior coach).

Your action in (I presume) questioning a ref over something which is either a minor human error (or God forbid perhaps the ref didn't see it) - to me sends the victim mentality message.

I never react to step on the line, last touched, 3 second calls that I think perhaps I was on the wrong side of. My boys normally do react and I will always say shut up and play ....step in court and back - really I couldn't care less, my mind is on things I can control - e.g. what D are we running are my guards placed, have my big guys motored back with an eye on the play etc.

The only umpiring decision I may put my hands on my head are when one of my lads does not get a charge call and done for a block....and at least in this situation my player has done something to earn a call. Even then my reaction is to clap my player and let him know I'm happy. At the end of the day I'd say 90% of my players are looking for my blessing on how they execute the game plan.

If I'm beeyatching a in bound violation ....well I'm personally not happy with the look or message that sends.

On Saturday - on a timeout the ref gave the ball to the opposition without even giving us a word of warning. My reaction (after the game) - I praised the player who spotted it, called it and got us on court before they scored. Secondly I just said to the refs - guys normally a whistle and a warning is common courtesy and shock horror ...the refs said ''Sorry coach we did, next time I'll run a bit closer'.

Not sure what you want a ref to say ....when I used to ref any player bitching at a call, I would say 'are you shooting 100%?'

Finally - it's 12's basketball, my experiences is how I coach for 16's & 18's in rep ball ...the refs will be learning too.

Trust me - as a coach control what you can control, be focused on your team and expect your team to be focused on your team - you'll get far, far more W's for the effort.

I expect the ref to say "you are not allowed a timeout, ball is at the position ready for disposal".

I then hope he walks away talking to himself something along the lines of "coaches wonder why we don't listen. Clear basics like when you can and can't have a timeout, and they can't even get that one right".

The gifted idea in junior basketball especially not division 1 is progression of the game. Clearly not enough evidence here except the coach not having a clue. Could the player been returning into the court when the ref has given them the ball? Maybe cause it is under 12 after all the team has specific people who pass the ball in and this poor kid was confused.

I hope the young volunteer referee has enough skills to let you hear stories about how the game ends after you walk gracefully to the car park.

I suggest the ref and coach have a dance off - winner takes all.

'Everyone is clearly not on the same page hence all the issues with basketball.'

so we don't agree with your hypothetical and it's our problem?

think you need to be a little more introspective and see that YOU have the problem..not basketball

OK - I'm really attracted to the dance off option but for the essence of fairness hypothetically what did the hypothetical coach say?

P.S. In my hypothetical - the team of said coach is losing.

Nice post Maxymoo.

If and NBA coach can let this slide , so can you

Great video YOLO - never seen that before, very funny!

Thanks for the peep message Maxymoo, timely reminder to all who coach where our priorities should be during a game.

(5/20 or 9 days)

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