Tonight at mars i saw many cases of referee abuse, which really makes me wonder why people are so pathetic? I will highlight two different scenarios here.
First game of the night, it was an under 12's div 1 game, which had only had one referee on the game due to various reasons i'm unaware of. Now for any ref to need to ref it solo is hard enough, but on an under 12's game when they are not entirely skilled, it makes things more difficult. The one coach, from team A, was a very vocal coach who liked to complain.
Her first attempt at communicating with the referee was by screaming 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 at the top of her lungs, which was easily heard across the stadium. Obviously she was after the referee to call the 3 in the key, which may or may not have been there. However when the referee put up the hand to say i heard you, she continued going shortly after. At the time out or quarter time, she approached the referee, and started blaming him for not being able to see what she wanted. She spoke in a very demanding and derogatory manner and was quite disrespectful. From what i could see the referee spoke in a calm manner and accepted what she had to say.
The game continued, however later in the game. The coach asked the referee to watch if the other team was playing a zone (it didnt look like it) When the referee said that he will keep an eye on it, she aggressively said that it was completely obvious and he should of seen it. During a time out later in the game, the referee told her that he could not see it although he would keep an eye out for it, instead of accepting this, she began to argue with him about it being completely obvious and that he needed to see it.
Now these two examples while may not seem like referee abuse, they actually are. This young man, an aba referee was doing the game by himself, which is not easy was clearly trying his hardest and i believe tried to be well mannered at all times, however when i coach continually pesters the referee, expecting the world of him and gets frustrated at him for not seeing the way she did, i believe there is something wrong with that.
Refereeing is not an easy job, you have to be a quick thinker, fit enough to run 4 games in a night and be able to control yourself when all you want to do is tell a parent or coach where to go. It is three times as hard when you are doing the game by yourself, you have everything to think about, all ten players, both coaches, the scorers, the yelling parents.
It is unacceptable for a coach to continually abuse a referee (especially when it is a solo) who obviously cares about the game and is doing everything he can to make the game as good as possible.
The worst thing is, after the game, which ended in a draw, the coach walked over to the referee and instead of shaking hands and saying thank you, looked at him, shook her head and said "embarrassing" Now that kind of behavior is completely unacceptable. Not only was her attitude wrong, it rubbed off on the young kids as they were complaining, yelling and even swearing at the referee as well.
I am not being bias here at all, i believe that refereeing has a long way to go, especially with the numbers. However this kind of attitude from a coach in an under 12 game is simply not acceptable.
It is unfair to generalize all referees with a few that may not care about the game, because i know that there are some great people out there, giving up three-four nights a work to referee YOUR games, they get paid very little to receive a lot of abuse. A lot of referees are now thinking, is it really worth it?
When there is a even larger lack of referees in this state, do not look at the referee education as being the problem, look at the cause of why these referees are giving it up. Because of the constant abuse they get week in and week out by trying to give something back to the game they love.
If you don't want a ref on your game, tell them and see how much you enjoy the game without any referees.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts on this but please, keep it sensible.